I heard yesterday that an American was abducted from his house in Model Town by 8 gunmen. So I’d like to write a slightly serious piece on this society, and hopefully you people wouldn’t treat my post like …worthless shi*.
There’s one very important lesson that I’ve learned and would like to share with everyone despite which ethnicity, culture, political party or religion you are from —- People are doing the best they can on the things they think are right.
Yes, I am judgmental. I don’t like how women face limitations in clothing, travelling, working and even in terms of their marriages. And I also hate how women are over-protected in Pakistan and many end up sitting at home gossiping or contribute so little to the society. I hate all the stares. I hate the hypocrisy and lies you come across in this country. I hate the hostility towards certain countries.
But, as a foreigner, (speaking from the Pakistani in me), I think, I am just too proud.
There are many negative associations in our heads towards certain words we hear. And we are quick to deny everything about it just because for us, that doesn’t seem to be the right thing.
Now, I am not saying I will have to AGREE on everything but that I just need to UNDERSTAND what is creating the differences, and give it some time to develop some consensus. True, I don’t feel women are respected when I see it from the personal experience. I call those independent confident Pakistani women exceptions. When I hear some women trying to stand on their feet I first congratulate them and then I start to think “hey, you are just more fortunate. What about the other Pakistani women?” When I hear about muslim fasting I think “Good for you but do you know why you are fasting?”
I’m too quick to defend what I think the right thing is, and I guard my belief like anything. It is great, but, you know, it is a big fat lie that we use religion, culture, politics as standards to define whether this is a person worth me to like, to spend time with, or to love.
What happened to this world, seriously? Is it possible that I only want to send aid to Kenya and not Nigeria because the difference in religion?
This evening, we sat together at the dining table to open iftari. Out of 5 of us there was only 1 muslim. I also fasted today but it was just out of curiosity to know if I could stop eating for 15 hours. I slept from 5:30am to 1:30pm, and then 5pm to 6:30pm. If you ask me, seriously I don’t think many Pakistani realize that these 30-day fasting is their commitment to seek intimacy with God. I think many of them are just like me who accidently didn’t eat and didn’t think why they had to do things in this way.
Now, I can have many criticism about fasting. You know how this has become an excuse to suspend all the projects, or a way to judge the ‘unholy half’. You can also think how bad it is for even teenagers who are still growing. You can also hate those who take advantage of Ramazan such as the restaurants owners and their customers. (Well, I think they should all focus on different promotions in other 11 months). You can hate people who eat like pigs and waste all the money and food resources.
But, seriously, what is the point to judge? I am not a better person just because I think I’m right and you are wrong. Something has make us blind and bring so much hatred between the different religions.
And I would say that something is called Pride.
It was pride that made Hitler killed the Jews. It was pride that Rwanda had its genocide. It was pride that America initiated war against terrorism.
Why are we even bother to police one another?
What I see is, well, it has something to do with having a deeper contact with a Chinese boy from Beijing lately. He had no idea why he uses Simplified Chinese and I use Traditional Chinese. He has no idea what Chairman Mao has done. He has no idea about why there is one-child policy. He has no idea why Youtube and Facebook is banned in China. He probably doesn’t even know 64 Tianman Square event. (or whether Taiwan is an independent state or not) You know, because the goodness of every human beings makes us to trust the information we receive.
And it is not that he rejects other opinions as you and I imagine. I mean, there are probably few Chinese who are interested in figuring out what has happened in the past. But there are other things in life too. And I am quite sure everyone is doing the best they can in their understanding. You don’t expect a 9-year old kid to ask you for your college textbook.(unless the kid was me). But do you think has anyone questioned the kid why he/she never had the idea of learning something good for her?
It is just like the Tiger Mother, I have never doubted for a second if the competitive environment in Taiwan was good for children. I just agreed with whatever that seems reasonable in the system, and I worked so diligently to meet my responsibility as a good student for that super-annoying national exam which would just decide which schools you could apply to.
You think I never thought about the easy curriculum in the west? Whenever I talk about the cram school (school after school) or the talent schools, I think I talk about them in pride as it shows the hard-working attitude in my country.
Again, you can ask me why I am a supporter of KMT (national party of Taiwan) and not the Democratic party, well, I will say that because my grandparents immigrated from China with the KMT. It is easier for me to go with the same line even though I do not really care about the politics in Taiwan.
So just some kids can play 10 instruments in Taiwan, people from the communist China can be nice, people from the democratic party aren’t necessarily over idealistic or crazy, it doesn’t make anyone a less human being to be respected just because he/she has a different religion.
You can also apply that to social class, body type, nationality and even sexual orientation.
So, muslim, yah, the definition is that people who follow Islam. But just let me emphasize again, they are people who follow Islam. It also goes the same way. There isn’t a person called ‘The West‘ that you can just blame and kill. They are also people.
And I think I learned all these through my friends who show me respect and haven’t tried converting me into Islam. They are more humble than I am. In this case, I feel worthless.